some random thoughts for you...

why is that we as woman tend to hold on to the things that hurt us the most? i mean think about it.
someone hurts us and we go on and on about it without realizing that we are only making the pain imortal. we tell girlfriends and anyone else who is willing to listen. why?dont get me wrong... i fully believe in talking about things because that is one way in which we heal but why carry on and on and on...?

i have recently learned a new and intresting art. Walking away.walking away from from whatever bad expiriances. walking away from anger and hate. walking away from people that do not recognize your worth and those who have made it an art of theirs to trample you down. this walking away is not an easy thing because it involves so much but is all worth it at the end of the day.

it invoves 1st: FORGIVNESS! not only towards the ofender but towards yourself as well. from a movie i once watched "when someone hurts you, they take power over you and when you dont forgive them they keep the power" - diary of a mad black woman. therfore when you forgive them and yourself you satrt to feel so much better and forget - the forgetting is what we want.
2nd: REALIZATION: realization that it has happend and there is nothing you or any one can do to go back in time and change it. why kill yourself further with all the could haves and should haves? the fact is that you didnt so move the hell on. what this person did or is doing is beyond your controll. what is in your controll is how you react to it and that is the key to your own happiness. also realize that some people are just not worth it. if they could hurt you in this way then maybe you should start evaluating how much this person cares abuot you. if they dont then hell - walk away with your head high!!
3rd: UNDERSTAND: i have seen in most cases that understanding why a person is behaving in a certain way goes a long way at releaving the pain on you. is this person lonely? are they going through something? things like that... dont make the mistake though of understanding and taking it to much. if ther is no hope then hell walk away.


FOLLOW UP ON LAST POST:


so my path of weight lose is a hard and brutal one. how the hell did i expect to do this while i have this long and good love affair with food. i love my food and unfortunately am not so big on the being active part of life. the fact that i now drive wherever i want to go has not done much to help out either. in the research that i have done i have found that in order to loose weight, the amount of calories going in (through food and drink) should be less then the calories going out (via exercises). in order to maintain that weight then this in and out value has to be equal. so you can imagine: for someone who loves food and is not so big on excising the result becomes huge me!!!


but well i guess i should just push it till i get it off and work on keeping it off or simply maintaining it to a minimal growth!